I was debating whether to publish this story.
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I received it three times: from the person who wrote the letter, from the couple's family who received the letter and was moved and read it the next day with Sheva Brachot - and from the Facebook group where the story was published.
Here are the details:
""Hello Sivan, my name is Noa and Neha, this week on the 17th of Elul I was supposed to celebrate six years of marriage, but my husband was killed in a car accident last year. It was important to me to mark this date anyway. It is still the happiest day of my life.
I decided to celebrate in the following way: go to the hall where we got married, and leave a letter there from me to the couple who would be getting married there that evening. I wrote all my advice and best wishes from the heart, drove to the Four Seasons Halls, and put the letter in the safe. I also posted it in the Facebook group "Good Friends in the Middle of the Road," which is intended for religious widows and widowers.
I didn't sign the letter and I didn't intend to publish the story, but it turns out that the mother of the groom who got married this week in our hall is a widow, and she's also in this group.
My letter went to an orphan who lost his father. How did it come to him, of all the weddings in the world, with such perfect timing? In light of the many reactions the story has provoked, I am publishing what I wrote, from my experience:
Congratulations to a couple I don't know! It's crazy and strange, but I have something to tell you. Exactly 6 years ago I stood with my beloved under the canopy in this hall. Unfortunately, he was killed about a year ago in a car accident. I don't want to grieve you on this day when you became one, but I do want to give you a gift from me – what I've learned since then:
Now you are at the beginning. There is great love and happiness and a lot of goodness. Over the years, things can become more complicated. Always remember this moment, when you chose each other and decided to live together for life. Don't get used to this togetherness, it is not taken for granted.
Small arguments and minor disagreements are so unimportant. Appreciate every coffee you have together. Appreciate every holiday and Shabbat. Appreciate the knock on the door at the end of the day. The fact that someone will turn on the heater for you before one of you gets home, the fact that the bed is a little cramped. Don't focus on the shoes in the middle of the house or the glass that one of you forgot to wash.
Don't think twice. Be best friends, and live knowing that you always have someone to lean on. You are never alone, your other half is always there for you.
Maintain each other's respect, don't insult each other in front of everyone, even if it's on the tip of your tongue...
Make up quickly (because there is no couple that does not quarrel). Always go to bed when you are at peace. Because if you are together - you can handle everything. Once you know that your starting point is that first of all you love each other, above all you truly love, it will be more pleasant and easier for you even in moments of disagreement.
Even when years pass, and you are very busy, and a little less young, and with children, invest. Invest in the relationship, in flowers for Shabbat, in small and large gifts. So that you will always be as good as new in each other's eyes.
May you have a happy and messy home with children,
May your home and your essence as a couple always be the single most important thing to you,
And that when your children get married, they will say: I want a relationship like my parents'.
"Congratulations.".
