The month of Elul is a new beginning.
In most Haredi families, there is a student who goes through a stage in their education: from Talmud Torah to a small yeshiva, from eighth grade to high school, from a small yeshiva to a large yeshiva, from high school to seminary.
These transition points are crucial and affect the student and his family.
Every child has a different nature and character. Just as every bouquet of flowers is made up of different colors, textures, and scents, so is family life.
You can't learn from one person to another, every child reacts to such events differently.
I recommend that parents follow the start days, listen, and support as chaperones.
Don't give too much advice. Let them find their way, even if you think they're wrong. Let them feel the fall themselves. Most teenagers learn by learning from mistakes, not from instructions. Only if you feel that there is a decrease in the child's desire and vitality (signs of life) - intervene.
Give the child responsibility for his life. Don't come from a place of judgment and criticism. Slogans can be harmful.
For example: If you are late for prayer... the head of the yeshiva will be angry with you and... if you don't keep things neat and tidy, the teacher will mark you... Don't do that. You already learned last year that it's harmful to you...
Another important point in this regard: When it comes to boys, try to shower them with warmth and love from an adult position...
The adolescent boy doesn't need a hug and kiss from his mother, he needs to hear you support him and pray for his success.
This is a new and exciting time for the student, the mother and father, and the siblings.
Each piece of the puzzle that makes up the family unit has a part to play in the struggle. Support each other, and with God's help, you will find only contentment...
P.S.
Express full trust in educators, do not fall into the deep pit of expressing a negative opinion about an educator/institution, but on this subject without a vow, in a special column.
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