A. Young Haredi men who were about to get married used to purchase a special garment called a 'frock coat', which is like a long coat, except that it differs from it in the two buttons on the back that are there for no purpose, as well as in the deep back slit that reaches down to the waistline.
on. The British had already been wearing a top hat and a tailcoat as formal and elegant clothing for men since the 18th century, but at this time the only ones who purchased the tailcoat were yeshiva students belonging to the Lithuanian sector, and Sephardim, who are called "mishtkanzim" in the language of the state, who are even more committed to it than their Lithuanian brothers. And they testified before the elders that they were happy about it.
third. An 'authentic' Sephardi yeshiva student will not wear a tailcoat lest he be called the unflattering name 'mishtkanez', and be ridiculed among his friends, neighbors, and his aunt from Afula without a head covering - who will ask his mother with concern: What is this strange garment that Zion is wearing?
D. Even among yeshiva students who wear tailcoats for their weddings, there are different customs, such as not everyone who wants to take the name Yava and take it. The situation of someone who excels in yeshiva is not the same as that of his fellow student who deals with public affairs, and therefore it is appropriate for him to be content with a short, sleek black suit.
And once an important young man approached one of the great men of his generation to receive his instruction on whether to wear a tailcoat to a wedding, and that great man understood the magnitude of the predicament before him and replied that he should consult with his yeshiva head on this central question.
the. The sons of well-known rabbis are obligated to know everything while wrapped in a tailcoat, and the ancients already screamed at the sons of the great yeshiva heads, who are not interested in wearing the tailcoat at their wedding, and bring shame and disgrace upon the heads of their ancestors.
and. A son-in-law who has won a 'full arrangement', meaning a complete apartment at his father-in-law's expense, is required to wear a tailcoat, otherwise he will be found to be dishonoring his father-in-law who invested hundreds of thousands of dollars on an 'excellent guy.' What are the implications of purchasing an apartment in a project? However, if an apartment was purchased for him in Jerusalem, all the more so, and the person who violates this will have his apartment taken away from him and he will end up renting it in the city of Harish for the rest of his days.
G. Upon putting on the frock coat, the groom will put on an expression of importance and walk with a serious face. He will not laugh out loud, he will not pat his friends on the back, and he will respond in a whisper to the greetings of peace from the people of the land. It is a mitzvah for the chosen one to walk with a slight stoop, hold a book in his hand, and participate in conversation with scholarly hand gestures.
He put on his frock coat and met a "cheerful" friend from the yeshiva. He would not talk to him about things that were funny and frivolous from their shared past, and he certainly would not bring up memories of offenses committed in Hada Mechta together with him while they were sitting on Shabbat, "Techamoni," but would pretend as if he did not remember, and whisper gravely: "What the hell, remind me?"
H. The father of the groom and the father of the bride also used to wear a frock coat at the wedding of their children, but if the father of the groom wears a frock coat, while the father of the bride does not practice this way, the other party is obligated to "straighten the line" and therefore - either they both wear it or they both undress, otherwise one will be found to feel superior to the other, and will be blamed for it, and we have enough of the challenge of the ketubah and the conflict over the identity of the reciter of the "Brecha Akhirata".
ninth. Even if the groom feels a great closeness to his bride and has dealt with her in the past on trivial matters, he will stand under the canopy with the frock coat on with a serious face, and through this behavior, he will clarify the differences in status between the head of the family and his assistant. If she refuses, it is a sign that she may disrespect him and his teachings in the future.
Y. The groom should not take off his tailcoat during the entire wedding hours, lest the guests misunderstand and explain it to one of the callers or, worse, to the waiter working there. And if he is hot and sweaty, he should think that he is doing this for a noble cause and will receive a great reward for his actions. If he tries hard and fails to understand what the purpose actually is, he should rely on his older friends who also wore tailcoats, and they were not confused or reneged on their duty.
Eleven. After the wedding, the groom will place the frock coat in the closet, and will think to himself that a man whose frock coat is on cannot and is not allowed to behave like one of the empty ones, and there is a great rule in this matter.
Twelve. On holidays, good days, and celebrations, the groom will wear the frock coat after shaking off the dust that has stuck to it. If he forgets and appears in the synagogue without the frock coat, his friends are ordered to tear off the civilian clothes he was wearing and return him to his home, and his honor is not forgiven.
13. A man may not wear a frock coat unless he has grown a beard on his chin, otherwise he will be seen as a magician. And if the holiday falls within three months of his wedding, he may go out in a frock coat in disguise.
hand. On Chol HaMoed, customs were divided. Some people wear a tailcoat, while others believe that wading in the muddy grass of Yehoshua Park with Sister Bracha's hard-to-reach feet is not a sign of blessing for the honorable attire, and therefore he went out in only a white shirt.
Tu. The Sabbath that is close to the last Yom Tov, is he permitted to wear a parak? Some advocate for forbidding it, since the holiday is over for him, and now Shabbat is like all Shabbats. However, some believe that since there is not a single moment between the years like Mimriya, he is permitted and even commanded to wear the parak. They also said: Is the sanctity of the more severe Shabbat less severe than the sanctity of the holiday?
16. The back buttons of the frock. Some used to leave them as they are – simple plastic, and some covered them with delicate velvet. And the covers have something to cover them with.
17. It is a common custom among yeshiva leaders who are immersed in Torah, or who suffer from mental confusion, to wear a one-button frock coat, and a frill in place of the second button.
18. And the incident of a rabbi walking down the street of a city with one button on his back, and when the residents of the country were surprised before him, why did he lack a button and not be a rabbi? He replied seriously that indeed he did, but this was a rabbi of a 'half-day' rabbi. However, they rejected his words, because if he did, a rabbi who was also the 'rabbi of an evening rabbi' would be required to wear three buttons, which is impossible.
19. Some say that the reason for the deep slit in the back of the frock is so that the wearer, when kneeling, can see through the open hole whether most of the worshippers have finished the Eighteenth Prayer and whether he is also allowed to do so, and Milli Davdihuta is right.
about. It is accepted that the color of the frock coat is black, but we also find blue frock coats among well-known rabbis, and even gray frock coats. These frock coats are a thing of the past, and today, anyone who wears them is nothing but a wonder.
21. How is the frock coat worn, open or buttoned up? If the wearer is thin, he should leave the frock coat open, lest he look like a man in a bottle and it would be bad for him. However, if he is fat, he is allowed to leave it open. In any case, care should be taken that when entering events, the rabbinical garment is closed, which adds honor and dignity to the wearer.
2nd. The one who wants to wear the tailcoat will act in this order: First, he will wear the tailcoat at his eldest son's wedding, and from there it will expand and spread to include the Sabbaths of the year, and eventually he will wear it on weekdays as well. The same is true with the "Hamburg" hat.
23. When is it permissible to start wearing the tailcoat, even on weekdays? They truly said that a person appointed as a dayan in any beit din must wear the tailcoat, and is even obligated to do so, and the same applies when he receives his first salary as a neighborhood rabbi. However, if he serves as the head of a yeshiva or a rabbi in it, one must weigh the pros and cons. And it seems that a distinction should be made between a small yeshiva for high school students and a large yeshiva for young men aged 18 and over, in which case the matter should be made more lenient.
jug. The rabbi of a synagogue is exempt from wearing the rabbi's robe, unless the synagogue is packed with avrechim and the worshippers wearing the rabbi outnumber those wearing the blue shirts, in which case the rabbi is obligated to wear the rabbi's robe. The ruling is that he should not be considered a "stabbed rabbi.".
so. A backward Sephardic yeshiva does not allow its head to wear the tailcoat, and if it believes that doing so will make it easier for it to recruit students, it should be permitted with caution.
Yes. 'A 'reply' in a 'small yeshiva' will not wear a tailcoat, and this is the custom. And a reply in a 'large yeshiva' may wear one, but is not obligated to do so.
27. And we found a 'respondent' in a small yeshiva who began to wear a frock coat, and to the people of the land who responded in astonishment, he said: "I do not desire this, but the yeshiva demanded it, and I was left with no choice," and he indicated that 'the elders pressed.' And indeed, the custom of using this excuse had already become widespread, and it was left to Israel to assume that if they were not prophets, they were sons of prophets.
Power. An administrative yeshiva director is allowed to wear a tailcoat, since in doing so he enlists the hearts of the wealthy in the United States for their Father in Heaven, and they open their pockets and pour out their funds for the yeshiva and its administration, which is covered in a rabbinical robe. And we have already heard of directors who wear their tailcoats only abroad, and humbly dismiss them as 'work clothes,' and that is a good sign.
29. A story about a small yeshiva leader who wore a tailcoat, and after a while he was forced to close his yeshiva due to lack of students and demand. Since his livelihood was difficult, he was forced to work at a nearby tambour store, but he did not take off his tailcoat, and the Haredi neighborhood boys teased him behind his back, and even called on their friends to watch the rabbi wearing the tailcoat, explaining to a customer the difference between an oven with 2 spirals [medium heating] and 3 spirals [very heating].
to. Lithuanian yeshiva heads and rectorate leaders who customarily march in a tailcoat will not wear a 'Hamburg' hat on their heads, but will be content with a 'Knitsch' hat, and so they did. And if the yeshiva heads are famous, they wear a Lithuanian hat.
not. The one who wears a Hamburg hat and a short suit, if he is Lithuanian, is nothing but one of the strange ones, although among the Sephardic rabbis we find this to be the case, provided that the rabbi is over 60 years of age.
heart. At this time, many people wore tailcoats, famously known as the great men of the generation, because a true scholar would wear a short suit or a bow tie, as a scholar is forbidden to wear the clothes of the people of the land, and in any case, he would ask a question of a scholar.
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